Just when you start getting in the flow and think you’ve got this ‘life’ stuff figured out, things start becoming a shit show.
You fall apart physically
- Your eyelashes disappear / get thinner, aging you by at least ten years
- Grey hairs come in in droves
- Menopause looms
- You creak and crack whenever you move (or pull a muscle putting on a sock)
- Two words: muffin top
- Wrinkles…deep lines…puffy eyes. All the stuff that makes you scared to look in the mirror every morning.
Then there’s life circumstances:
- Aging parents. Family members start dying /getting dementia/ cancer etc.
- Empty nest syndrome
- Having babies is a young woman’s game. For older women it’s exhausting— plus you have to deal with all the rest of the bullet points.
- Harder to change careers or get a new job
No wonder the midlife crisis is a thing. BUT! There’s hope. Some of the good points are truly priceless, so they balance out the bad.
- Hard-earned knowledge. For what you lose in beauty/youth, you make up for in wisdom. (Seriously! Would you *really* want to be 22 again?)
- Mo’ money
- You’re more confident / secure in who you truly are
- It’s much easier to not care about what others think of you (true freedom!)
- Day drinking is cool
- You’re usually higher up in your career / have lots of expertise
- The chance to be a hot cougar!
- Empty nesters can travel more and not have to sleep in a hostel or one-star hotel
- Wisdom. Ok it’s the same as knowledge but it’s essential. Imagine making the same mistakes you did in your teens or 20s!
- You get really clear on your life’s priorities and what’s most important to you. Times a’ wasting, people. You ain’t getting any younger; the time to do reach your goals is now!
What would you add to these lists?
Do you agree that the good outweighs or at least balances out the bad?
Yesterday’s blog post was in response to my friend asking how I was disciplined enough to eat healthily. I want to stress again, that I am no expert on this. But I *can* tell you about my experience, and maybe it will be helpful.
I don’t want to sound like a cult member or anything, but I truly believe that the Medical Medium lifestyle is good for everyone. Sure we’re all different, but there’s nothing that can hurt anyone within it, and it truly is a lifesaver for many. People are so worried about protein, but a. you really don’t need as much as people think you do and b. you can easily get enough with plant-based foods–like beans, spirulina (a supplement), greens, and even fruits.
If you don’t have any symptoms like constant headaches, fatigue, aches and pains, and so on, or you only have minor ones, and you don’t feel like you have it in you to overhaul your diet, just add in more fruit. Like more than you ever think you could or want to eat. People are afraid to eat fruit, which Anthony William calls fruit fear (duh,) because someone put it out there that fruit sugar is bad for you. They say it spikes your blood sugar and makes you fat. Not at all true. It’s not the blueberries in the blueberry muffin that are adding weight, it’s the sugar and oil.
Fruit sugar is very different than table sugar or refined sugar. Our brains are fueled by fruit, our bodies need the glucose. (This is all according to MM, but I felt enormously better once I added in more fruit. I was barely eating any at all, thinking vegetables were the most important. Don’t stop eating veggies, though! They are still important, but fruit is vital.) And you will probably find that you don’t crave sugar as much as you once did. I didn’t love fruit that much but making different types of smoothies helped that a lot. There’s creative ways to add fruit in.
Another thing is MM says if you can only do one thing, just start juicing celery juice on an empty stomach first thing in the morning. Then wait 20-30 minutes to eat. It has to be fresh, it has to be drunk within half an hour, and it has to be plain celery juice, nothing else. Just drinking this for two weeks increased my health by a whole notch when I first started. Over time, it helps with all kinds of things. MM has an entire book just about the benefits of juicing celery juice. All the stars are drinking it now too, and there’s a lot of misinformation about it out there now, unfortunately. The bottled celery juice you’re now seeing in supermarkets is basically useless because it isn’t fresh. You really have to juice it yourself or drink it in a juice bar that has made it fresh for you.
Some other practical tips—and again, I am not an expert on this but..
- Letting people know beforehand that you have food allergies, or that you are eating differently than normal. Offering to bring something to a dinner party is usually well received, especially if the person knows you can’t eat certain things.
- Calling ahead to a restaurant to ask questions about the menu or get assurance that you cannot eat canola oil (for example). I admit, I have never once done this, but I know people do it a lot. I did call a farm once to see if their corn was genetically modified.
- When you’re traveling, bring whatever you can with you. Find out where the farmer’s markets are beforehand. Google juice bars before you go. Just doing a little bit of pre-planning can do wonders.
The hardest part is socializing. You have to think ahead about restaurants, where you can go and what you can eat. You have to let people know your food issues, and you have to be honest but diplomatic and kind. And if you are sick and trying to heal, you may just have to hunker down, realize that it is going to take some time to heal, and make yourself a priority. Your true friends will understand and stick by you. One bonus is that you can actually get rid of any toxic friends in your life during this time too. I say that jokingly but also dead seriously. People sometimes are threatened when their friends change. It makes them look at themselves, and as I mentioned earlier, people don’t change all that easily. Don’t let this hold you back. As I will keep saying over and over, this is your one life, and YOU ARE WORTH IT!
My friend asked me to expand upon my last post in which I wrote about eating mostly plant-based—specifically the Medical Medium way. She feels like if she lived in a bubble, she could alter her diet and be disciplined. And she worries about not eating what people cook for her (tough one!) and not wanting to disappoint others (also not easy.) I’m going to answer over two posts, and this is the first.
The short answer to these questions is that this is your ONE life, and you have to live it how it works best for you. If eating/living this way makes you feel better—and it will, eventually—then you should eat this way. Period, the end!
The longer, more honest answer is that it’s hard. I still struggle with it after four years.
You’ll have to set boundaries. You’ll have to field a lot of questions. You’ll probably get teased, and may even feel some anger coming your way. Sounds like fun, right? It makes sense that people respond this way though. Food is such a fraught topic. It is baked into the fabric of our lives, no pun intended. It is our entertainment, a huge part of our social lives, our way to cope in a difficult world. Eating and drinking brings people together. It is a way to show love, to bond, sometimes even to communicate when there are no words.
In my family and in many families, food means love. So if you choose to eat differently than them, they may take it that you’re rejecting their love. (BUT I MADE THIS FOR YOU! IT’S ALWAYS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE!) So you have to assure them that because you are choosing to eat differently now, it’s not a reflection on them, their choices or their enticing meals. You have to be loving but clear. As Brene Brown says, clarity is kindness. Sending mixed signals is not.
As someone said to me about starting my blog, ‘You just have to drink a big cup of ‘who gives a sh*t?’ about what others think of you. Or maybe you prefer this saying: ‘what others think of you is none of your business.’
People are always skeptical of change, and that’s why I would guess that most people find Medical Medium when they are desperate. I certainly did. People don’t want to change unless they absolutely have to. I was in pain and wanted to be out of pain, so I was willing to try anything. The near-drowning wasn’t my first go-round with MM (see my last post), but the second time was much easier because by then there were books and Facebook groups, etc. In 20 years, this way of eating will probably be much more accepted. Right now, it’s outside the traditional way of eating, like the SAD (Standard American Diet) or meat-heavy diets the world over. It’s even different than just veganism. It’s still in its infancy, so those who partake of it are really pioneers!
Having said all of this:
- I often fail at all of the above. There are other people I know who are on this program who are way WAY better at following it strictly than I am. I do need to ask them their secret(s).
- I cheat. A lot. Especially in social situations. I’m healed enough to do that now, but it totally catches up with me. And then I have to do a cleanse or just start being stricter again. (Like I have to do now because I have been slacking the last few weeks.) Being stricter means more celery juice, more juicing in general, more fruit, etc.
When I was feeling really bad a few years ago, it was easier to be strict because I was in pain. Discomfort or dis-ease has a way of keeping you on track, because all you want to do is feel better. And if eating better will help you feel better, you tend to stick to it. One problem with trying to heal when you’re really not feeling well is that it’s hard to do all the prep work: chopping, blending, juicing, etc. The juicing and everything else does take effort, and it’s really hard to motivate when you don’t feel well. The motivation has to win out over the effort. I’m not gonna lie, that was a difficult time. It was already stressful because we were renovating our apartment and so we were living in a dingy, dark Airbnb for three of the many months it took to really start feeling better. I didn’t have (couldn’t have) much of a social life during that time, and I had to find other ways to entertain myself. The plus side was that I met lots of people online who were going through the same protocol, and who were also pretty desperate to heal. Most of those people are still mostly on the program and have healed tremendously.
I’ll make another post tomorrow about more practical tips but for now (if you’re still reading) just remember this: you are worth it. You are worth looking after your health. Healing is possible. Glowing health is possible. It may be easier for some than others, but it’s possible. You’re genes aren’t faulty; you’ve just been getting the wrong information. Bottom line: eating this way, living this way, is a radical act of self-love. Are you ready for that?
Reminder to myself and others, especially empaths.